@cocosmom : It is sad when you are trying to help someone and it goes bad. All you can do is realize you did the right thing, how they chose to use it is on them.
When I give to someone, I give from my heart, because I feel that is what I should do. If they take that gift and blow it, or waste it, that is on them, not me. I did what I was supposed to, and that is the only thing I am accountable for. Even though the last time went bad, someday, it may come back to them as a teaching moment. Who knows, they may remember what you did, and how they reacted, and it could make a positive change in their life or attitude. You planted kindness, and like karma, everything that goes around, comes around. You may not be there to see it, but it will. Some people call it the Law of Reciprocity, aka, "What ever a man shall do will be returned to him, good measure, pressed down and running over shall men give unto his bosom."